“One thing you can’t hide – is when you’re crippled inside.”
― John Lennon
A friend is in pain with her wrist , she felt it would be easier to die than live with that pain. Thats a hard thought to get over. Sending her links and advice on Whats App from hundreds of miles away ,is not helping. She has finally gone to see the doctor . Hope she gets sorted soon.
Physical pain hopefully will be dealt with, thanks to medical world. These days websites have a great deal of information and mostly they help. Keeping active is so important to deal with arthritis pain. I keep telling my mother to walk. She has difficulty walking due to one foot problems but she tries hard. Uses a wheely frame to walk or holds on to banisters. Never thought getting old was so difficult and it is painful to watch. I send information leaflets to relatives and friends from NHS websites and arthritis UK websites- they have helped a few of them especially with muscular back pains.
Emotional pain is a the hardest pain I think. That really cripples you. Sleep, appetite, concentration, happiness all gets affected. Needs to be sorted before it leads to further issues of pathological depression and anxiety. An older couple once told me – “it is easier to deal with pain by looking at others. There is always someone worse than us.” It really made me think . It does not make our pain less but definitely makes it smaller. After going through with others difficulties mine does seem much littler. What was I crying out for? What was all that fuss about?
We learn to cope with it all. We have to. Inner strength will help. When I get shot by somebody I know – I mean not actually shot but the same impact which could be through words or actions, that is the most painful. I feel ashamed of how and why this happened. I believed in the person or system and it failed me so badly. I could swear but I won’t. Betrayal is bad. Getting over stuff like this leaves us with a bad taste . People say forgiveness helps. Why should it be me always. But important thing is- if I forget and forgive -I can move on and look after myself. Me becomes the priority here and do whats good for ME.
If you are the victim, you need to look after yourself. But inital reaction is always of revenge .Punishment for the perpetrator takes hold of us. But what I have learnt is the victim needs to look after themselves first otherwise the pain gets worse . Look after youselves, get help, think about others in need, and make yourselves happier.